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Imagining Life Without Children

Imagining Life Without Children

When people ask me if I love having children my answer is always conflicted. Honestly, I love having children. It is my vocation, my life, it is what I signed up for. There would be no magic for me without my children showing me the world through their eyes and helping me to understand the value of nature to a higher degree. They also bring back memories of how I viewed the world when I was little, like when I was four I was mesmerized by a Christmas tree that actually grew it’s own candy.

A house without children would be, would be…quiet! I would die in a quiet house. Granted I could play the music I wanted to play without a nine year old DJ changing the songs. I could watch movies, listen to NPR and read without being ridiculously interrupted. I would barely have to clean the house and my beloved objects wouldn’t “got broke all by itself”.

There would be no Koala Bumpers stuck to our new, beautiful wood floors and no boogers or bottoms to wipe. I would not walk into a bathroom and find a dump the size of a large colon curled around the toilet.

I could feel sexy and strut around the house in lingerie and lounge in erotic poses on all white furniture when the mood presented itself. I would have no processed food in the house. I would sleep, and best of all I would share more intimate moments with Baddy, and perhaps we would no longer have to resort to heavy groping in closets, bathrooms or alleys when out on the town!

Without children my purpose may shift to something less valuable. I would see things differently and perhaps not so optimistically. I may not care so much about trying to revive our planet to ensure that my children will not suffer when I am gone.

If I were asked if I would do it all over again knowing what I know now my answer would be a definitive and resounding yes. Baddy’s answer might be slightly different.

 

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nicolette wernick May 2, 2009 at 8:28 am

ONE OF YOUR BEST AND MOST THOUGHTFUL BLOGS. I WOULD BE A DEAD DUCK IF I DID NOT HAVE MY THREE DAUGHTERS. They stick by their inadequate Mother come what may. I love them madly, totally, deeply.
Mum

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Farrah from Wife and Mom of 3 May 2, 2009 at 8:32 am

I think I’ve found my twin!! lol Mine are 3, 8, 9 and I think about this all the time but would do it all over again in the end. A little break is always nice to have but a permanent one is not something I’d ever wish to have.

We’re twitter followers so I thought I’d come check out your place, LOVE it! I’m rather jealous of your writing!!

Farrah from…
Wife and Mom of 3 (wifeandmomof3.net)
The Book Faery Reviews (tbfreviews.net)

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babbo May 2, 2009 at 8:33 am

Nicely said.

My boys are such a gift.

I just wish I could be better at the stuff I suck at. Like staying calm no matter what, and being pleasant when I’ve had no sleep!

Peace,

babbo
http://www.daddybrain.wordpress.com

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Carrie Anne May 2, 2009 at 8:33 am

I saw a post on mom’s that twitter (mom bloggers club) about snow and writing and insanity and I had to drop by. I can relate to your post. I too have 3 kids (6,4,2) and dream of sleeping in and loud explitive music and less laundry. But I only dream about it since the trade-off of no kids isn’t worth it. Glad to see I’m not the only one having these dreams though.
Cheers

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Nora May 2, 2009 at 8:34 am

I couldn’t agree more. Children absolutely change you and give you a different perspective on life. Great job. (I saw you on the mom bloggers club site). Love your blog.

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Katharina June 21, 2009 at 11:24 pm

love your website. you´ve got great boys. can i reach u on sunday?
kisses and hugs from cologne. miss u so much.

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Marrdy August 1, 2009 at 9:21 am

I waited (noy by choice) for 8 years to have my first child. A miracle baby that I wanted so badly. And then I almost forgot what it was like to not have a child. The quiet, the clean, doing all those things that I WANTED to do. Now my youngest is 15 and wanting to leave my nest. Somedays I wish I could go back to my 4 year olds! The things we can see through a childs eyes are amazing!

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

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Jen August 1, 2009 at 9:21 am

A life without kids…oh my- to not have to clean, and to keep my things in one piece. I don’t know just what I would do. Sleep in every day? Thanks for the great post, and Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

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Miriam August 1, 2009 at 10:04 am

My husband is still on the fence as to whether or not he wants children. It depends on the day. We aren’t in a position to have children yet, but posts like yours make me sure that someday I will want them. And I’m sure that as our friends start to have families and cherish their babies, he will want them too.

Thanks for sharing.

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest.

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Jillian August 2, 2009 at 10:30 am

So glad that I can inspire one to want children instead of turning you off from them forever!

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